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Turn left – Happiness!

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It hurts me to know that my friends are lack of choices.

More often I see them as special relics in my heart. So many endless wonders to be explore and unleash. But sometimes the environment has limited their abilities and space to shine.

I’m referring to lots of aspects. Be it work, talents or love.

I’ll take a story of love for this example.
Pretty girl A is pretty. (Doh!)
Jerk dude A and Dumb dude B is going for Pretty girl A.
Hunk dude C is out of the picture.
Pretty girl A chose Dumb dude B.
Pretty girl A didn’t know that she has got choice to say no to both and hope for Hunk dude C.
Pretty girl A suffers.

Sad stories repeats itself on different counterparts.

“You chose your happiness to be a myth.”

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Dating The Untouchables (for men)

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  • Women like power. Show your guts and self-confidence. Someone has to be able to protect her when she is like the only flower among the bees.
  • Women like charisma. If you can make a woman laugh, you probably can make her do anything. They wouldn’t want someone who is just good-looking without a sense of humour.
  • Women like conversations. Stop starring at her but instead talk to her. They most probably get hit on very often to be sleep with. Think different.
  • Women like respect. Be cool, don’t drool. Respect her as a woman not as a sex object. Be a gentleman.
  • Women like praises. Tell her that you admire her. Not only just the looks but her. Compliment them on the most subtle actions. Like when she twitch her lips.
  • Women like observations. Women know themselves. Never ignore her looks. Say how matching her scarf is with her dress.
  • Women like IQ. As much as you want to sleep with her, she doesn’t. They prefer someone who will help them grow.
  • Women like freedom. Trust her as much as you want her to trust you. It’s common for her to get pick up and hit on most of the time. Be nice to the guy and he will be nice to you. Jealous, don’t be.
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Whoopsie… ex-files.

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I’ve never gotten like super close with any of my ex. And damn well no intimacy after that. No intentions whatsoever. You see… the reason they are known as ex is because you draw a big X over their name. Indicating it’s broken, unusable. So look forward, don’t turn back and bite that sour fruit again. It’s so yesterday!

But then sometimes some people tend to do it anyway. So here are some situations and ways I think you should deal with it.

  • The coincidence. Oh yeah. It’s a beautiful day. With the striking sun out of sight and breezy breeze brushing your face. Nothing else could go wrong… something caught your eye. Your ex-girl/boyfriend is walking towards you with a new soul mate. Now, be nice! Act like you’re pleased to meet the other half even though it hurts. You would look bad if you showed any sign that you’re still upset over the whole thing. Don’t talk for too long and make sure you say how nice it is to meet up with them both and then excuse yourself. Focus, focus… eye on a better half for yourself and let them turn green.
  • The bed scene. Yes, it was an accident… hit me baby one more time! You did tell yourself over and over again not to cross that line but some how it happened. Trust me… either one of you would be thinking that it’s just a casual sex session. So what I say is. Keep yourself occupied with something else. This is a bad habit to keep up with.
  • The sound of wedding bells. You picked up your phone nonchalantly thinking that someone nice is calling you. It’s your ex-girl/boyfriend’s number. You answered it hoping that it should be no big of a deal. To your surprise,your ex is getting married. Guess what, you’re on the invitation list. Hmm… if the event brings bitterness to you then I guess you should skip the wedding and go out with your friends to forget about the whole event. Only show up if you’re totally over it and you’re there to bless your ex.
  • I want you back. Oooo… sounds like a bliss? Think again. Stand firm on your ground. Re-check his/her quality. Has he/she become a better self? Why it didn’t work out before and would it work this time? Don’t accept just because you’re lonely, you needed a date or hearing I love you from him/her. Getting a second chance is something for him/her to work for. So work his/her ass off to get you back.

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Get up and be loved once again!

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This particular entry is specially written for those who are single or still not over with their recent sorrows. Stop weeping, put on that 100% confident outfit of yours, get a decent aura, say hi to the person in the mirror and get your ass back up in the field and play ball! If you’re really hopeless and lost, here I bundled 20 ways to heat up the season for either a red-hot fling or a long-lasting love. Godspeed!

  1. Recruit the new. A party or a night out would be fine. You need to get to know someone new through your friends. Also it’s much safer to date your friend’s friend.
  2. Fun is all you need. Go have a blast. When you’re not out in the wild with the thoughts of hunting something down, you might just be the hunted.
  3. Be occupied. Make sure your calender is pack with events! The more you do, the more chances you can grab hold of.
  4. Go dateless. You don’t need a date to go movies, beach party, bbq, house party and so on. Spin your spider webs. The special person might just get caught.
  5. Be yourself. Get comfortable. Relax and find inner peace. Love yourself and others will start loving you.
  6. Skip the bar. You don’t always have to be at a bar to get picked up. Try Starbucks or Coffee Bean for a change. The bookstore is another good choice too.
  7. Get connected. Get plug onto the world wide web. Start instant messages, e-mails and any means of communication.
  8. Read. Self-help books can help a lot in this area. Especially when you have no one to turn to, to ask for help.
  9. Make friends. Be bold. Try to make new friends and expand your circle of life.
  10. Don’t be shy. Guys or girls. It’s the 21st century! If you think that someone is good enough for you. Make it happen. Don’t let it pass you by like a dream.
  11. Make that change. Look into the mirror. Tell that person in the mirror to make that change. Be active in the society around you. You feel much better doing something better than nothing.
  12. A perfect plan. Plot the whole date out. Use all the right moves. Time, place and attitude.
  13. Another shot. Recruit your old friends. Those who are still single. Reach out for them and have a pot luck or sorts. There might be something that wasn’t there before.
  14. Pet-sit. Offer a helping hand if your friends needed you to take care of their flurry balls. Pets can be a good companion. They offer unconditional love.
  15. Go with blind dates. Don’t worry. This isn’t the last resort. Take all the chances you can find. Your friends just might be right with the perfect soul mate for you.
  16. Advertisements. This is fun. Post your personal details and stuff on the nearby store or a small corner on the papers or mags. Don’t think of it as cheap. I dare you to!
  17. Be a member. Find something you like and register as a member. The new activity you just picked up is gonna help you meet someone new this season.
  18. Search at the right places. If you’re looking for a fling, most probably a bar. A commited one, try the bookstore or the library instead. You can go by interest too. Like musicians can be found in music festivals. Church is also another great place.
  19. Go shop. Browse along the malls and you’ll get to know interesting people that might just be doing what you’re doing.
  20. Make a move. DO NOT WAIT!

“Keep your options open.”

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You were strong.

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Time after time, I’ve always heard about the human kind complaining that they cannot go on after any particular separation. To me… that’s bullshit! We are known as human beings, the utmost living creature created by God in the image of Himself. We are the only living creature that has got the power to adapt, think and feel.

So here comes the story… Guy and girl gets together. They love each other. One day, guy and girl decided to call it quits. Let’s say the guy is a jerk. (Usually we are) Girl gets heartbroken badly. Cried for countless nights and still couldn’t get over with it. None of the remedy she tried could help herself.
Now here I would like to stress that, situations like this is bullshit! We were alone. We were not attached. Don’t tell me that someone is gonna come into your life and leave with a big hole in your heart. Yeah, I know it hurts but we can get over it. There will be a hole, but we just have to learn to deal with it. Patch things up and go on with life. Think about the days you were single and you lived your life happily without even needing the other half. Why? How? The days are still there but it’s you who want to think that it’s the end of the world. We humans can live alone normally, healthily.

But you’ll say it’s love. Yes, I know it’s love… the mumbo jumbo feeling and stuff. But think twice. It’s call loved. (past tense, mind you) So the situation has changed. If you’re still complaining then it’s just a habit to be with the other half. How about getting use to another situation for a change. A way better situation that is gonna make you whole again.

Seriously, don’t let me look down on you. I’ve been in love and out of love. It’s not that big of a deal. Yeah, you might say that I’m just heartless or I’ve got friends there to go through with me. But does it really help? Can friends really help you when you still have to climb onto your bed at night alone and start thinking of all the good times and start sobbing again? They can talk to you the whole day but when the night comes you’re all alone again. It’s just an excuse we give ourselves. Live for yourself! You build your own future and destroys your own future if you may. Claim back your independence right from this very second. Life is full of chances and opportunities, and it’s up for us to learn to grab them.

“Falling in and out of love is part of growing up. It makes us stronger.”

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Who is trying to have a better sex life?

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I was walking in the malls today and I passed by a bookstore. It’s one of my favourite spots to hang out. You can learn so much just about anything. And of course not to mention the fair or gentle ones you meet up in the bookstore. A top choice to look for your soul mate. (TIP 1 : Start from your favourite category of books)

Anyway, what I want to share today is about the topic. “Who is trying?” What I meant here is : who is trying to turn who on? It can also be put as : who is trying to satisfy who?

If you’re still uncertain, I want to be specific that the topic is base on sex. Interesting topic, ain’t it? I browse through a lot of category of mags. And through all the car mags, tech mags, men and women mags. I can’t help but notice how they emphasize all the sex topics on the front magazine cover of men and women mags. This leads me to wonder, are men and women facing the same problem? And the topics they are trying to solve are always encouraging a better sex life. Are human so incapable of enjoying something that enjoyable?

If most of the time men magazines are trying to satisfy women in every possible way. That means guys are bad in bed. But that isn’t true. Women magazines stated clearer on how to turn them on and give them a good time. With all these tipping off who is good? Or should I say who is bad?

I gave it a clearer thought and my conclusion is. We are simply sleeping with the wrong people! It’s so hard to satisfy each other because this sex thing is so personal. And to get that perfect connection is just simply hard. Fixing this problem requires both parties to be truthful and open to each other. They must be able to request or give in to the needs of each other. Compromising is the key.

“Satisfaction requires compromising”

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What I think about dating an older woman.

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Not every guy gets a chance to date someone older than them. Heck most are very much against the idea of dating someone older than them. You, my friend are missing out.

Dating someone older than you also means they are much more mature. They are usually in control of their own lives. Doing whatever they please. These are the ladies that will not claim that they need to be back by 12 midnight before their chariot turns back into a pumpkin. They have an opinion, unlike girls below 20s. I would also add in that there are much more reasonable. At least that’s what I think at my age now.

And being older… they are more caring. I should say this might be traits of being a mom but it’s all good. It seriously comforts you when times are rough. Who wouldn’t like a strong women right? Strong also means that, having her own career, financially independent, groovy apartment with a walk-in wardrobe and huge social network! Guys… I know most of the time you might feel inferior with all these things but think about it. Isn’t it great to have such a fabulous woman? It can be a drive for you to work harder to succeed in life too!

Another note, being mature also brings sexier times in bed.

When there are pros in this situation, it also brings some cons.

Having that age gap in play, certain topics could make you seem like a kid. Growing up in a slight different era also means that you can’t really share the same sentiments. On the bright side, you’ll get to learn more from each other.

Things might be smooth between the both of you. But when friends and family comes into the limelight, things might sometimes get nasty. It’s no biggie, just something you need to learn and adapt instead of trying to change it.

The age gap also affects future topics about having kids. Keep it low for the first few months. If you’re serious about the relationship. Go ahead and bring up the b-word. Having a baby isn’t a game. It does show maturity in you but it carries more than just responsibility.

All and all, if you get to be Ashton Kutcher and have your hands on Demi Moore. By all means, marry her!

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You’re in love?

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Have you ever came across a person, opposite sex that is. A person who failed to make a big impact on the first sight, nor did he or she attracted you in anyway you could possibly think of. But… time showed the true colours. The true colours of the person. Suddenly the person started to glow with a special aura. A simple and innocent attractiveness that you thought wasn’t there before.

I’m not talking about that sudden stylish cool hunky look neither is that sudden sexy long red dress with a low slit where you can almost see her nipples. I’m talking about a person who has got a personality that shines. It shines so bright that it simply catches you easily and captivates you. Gradually, you’re awe by the sight of the person without you even knowing it. Your heart beats so fast that it starts to melt. Your brain is like a railway with millions of trains passing by. In short, you’re in love?

Seriously, I have no say to this. I’m confused myself too. But not giving a perception of my point of view, then there’s no point for this entry. Before I could really say something about it. You have to be clear of what love is.

What is love? For me… love… I consider it a highly dangerous substance. It makes people do stupid things and creates disaster in our hearts. Although most of the time it is wonderful and love may appear to save the world every now and then. As bad as it seems, we human still want to search for it. And I know of some people that could never live without love. Is it addictive? Is it that amazing? When does it hit and when does it bounce off? It comes like a tsunami, so high you’re drowned by it and leaves like a hurricane, so fast you never know what hit you.

I believe as far as personal traits might go. Love is always forgiving. Love is always caring. Love is always accepting. Love is always missing. Love is always giving. Love is always first.

If you think there’s a person in your life that is worth that much values. You’re in love.

“Love is part of growing up.”

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