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When do you deserve to love and be loved in return?

You may be single or attached or heart-broken or trying to recover from a sour relationship as you’re reading this. But what you’re going to read here applies to everyone.

The only time you deserve to love and be loved in return is when you know what you’re doing with your life. True love isn’t just about the looks or the money. That is as shallow as any relationship can get. You might even argue with me that there are elements like being truthful, being earnest, being forgiving, being caring and all but true love only happens when you learn how to respect and admire the unique individual for who they are genuinely and what they do best with their life.

No one, and I mean no one would be truly in love with a person who beg for love and forgiveness. That is just loving out of sympathy, nothing more and nothing less. The day you have learn how to focus your energy in doing what you do best is the day everyone would see it and admire you for who you are. Humans can be blinded by love but we are no fool in recognizing what lies beneath that mask. We just choose to have faith and hope even though we could spot the ill patterns from experience. This will surely one day exhaust itself and he/she will wake up one day and realize why am I still sticking to this joker with multiple mask for? Who was I loving all these while?

So don’t waste your time chasing for love and companionship if you can’t focus on yourself individually. You don’t deserve love and be loved in return if you can’t be the best you can be in this life time. Go that extra mile and gain that respect and admiration and soon enough you’ll realize that you not only love yourself more, you are also a truly happy person. This will then make you worthy of loving someone and be loved in return.

“You don’t deserve love if you can’t focus on yourself. The day you focus on yourself is the day everyone would respect, admire and love you for what you do best with your life.”

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When we fall in love again, do we love better or worst?

First Love
I want you to unwind back to your first love. Who was him/her? It felt perfect didn’t it? It feels 100% because everything was for the very first time. There was nothing, no one else to compare it with. But what if the first love didn’t worked out as planned? You had to pick up a new love. The soul tie that was formed previously with your first love has to be cut. Could it be cut completely, or will there always be a thin line holding each others heart? (Admit if you will that there will always be a little soft spot for the first love as kryptonites are to Superman.)

Below are 2 theories on loving better or worst after a complete clean breakup.

Loving Worst
Because the soul ties are not completely cut away from the first love, therefore we are not able to form complete soul ties with the next partnership. The second love could only experience 90% of what’s left from the first love because the remaining 10% is forever with the first love. I could not imagine what’s gonna happen for the remaining lovers if the second or third one fails. The more we love the more soul ties we form and the less is given because now the love of 100% is divided.

Loving Better
Even with the soul ties attached to the first love. We are able to love more. This is because our hearts heal, what doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger. And because it heals, we are able to give a complete 100% or 110%. The more we have loved the better we are at understanding ourselves and our partners. Our hearts have infinite love if only you choose to unlock it. And with each new lover, our love will always flow like a river endlessly to a new found love because that’s where hope is found.

Conclusion
We always love better. Even when we are afraid of getting hurt again in a second relationship. The reserved heart will open up the moment we realize our lover is giving their all sincerely. All doubts will be lifted and you will choose again to love with all you have and even more because our hearts do heal.

“Our hearts have infinite love if only you choose to unlock it.”

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Bitter heart bitter heart, why are you bitter?

The news came and painted my heart blue,
I thought I heard wrongly but it’s true.
There were feelings for her that grew,
bitter heart bitter heart, I hate you.

All the things we said to do and play,
I don’t blame her or felt betrayed.
Knowing that the boat has left the bay,
bitter heart bitter heart, please go away.

We knew the differences altogether,
time flies and we aren’t getting younger.
I’m happy but my heart begs to differ,
bitter heart bitter heart, why are you bitter?

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7 billion population, why fight over a girl?

The Earth has 7 billion population. Amongst the 7 billion, over 1 billion are single and eligible females. Why are men still fighting over the same girl?

Throughout my life, I’ve seen numerous examples of guys going after the same girl and often it doesn’t end where the winning guy and the girl walks into the sunset like movies or fairy tales. It mostly end up in blazing flames.

I myself did make a similar mistake. I remembered during my adolescent years, I did fall for the wrong girl and that cost me my best friend who is like a brother to me. (we are still strangers) That lesson was a painful one and since then, I’ve never fought with anyone else over a girl. It’s never worth it. Let me paint you a few scenarios.

The Ego
Ben is an average looking guy who has never dated and decided to try his luck with Ellie. Unfortunately Sam likes Ellie and decides to go for her too at the same time. Ben & Sam tried their best to woo Ellie but Sam decided to let go in the end. Sam gave his blessings and Ellie accepted Ben. Things were good for awhile till Ben started showing his ego. Since he won Ellie over Sam, he felt like he could just get any girl. So Ben ditched Ellie and tried to pursue other girls. Sam is now dating someone else and Ellie is heartbroken.

The Superstar
Ellie is a sweet & kind average looking girl. She was never popular because her best friends are more attractive than her. She seldom gets noticed and she couldn’t care less. Suddenly it all changed when she noticed that 2 of her peers are trying to date her. It was a feeling she has never experience and it felt good, real good. The exciting discovery changed Ellie from the sweet & kind girl into a girl who plays hard to get. Her friends now call her a bitch.

You’ve Changed
Ellie is an elegant woman who is a successful manager who works in a MNC. She wasn’t rushing into any commitment especially when 2 guys named Ben & Sam constantly showers her with gifts, flowers and love.  A year has passed and she figure out who she wants to spend her rest of her life with. After a phone call, Ben is the happiest man alive. Ben was so ecstatic he made sure everyone knows who he was dating, especially after that 1 year long chase. But 6 months later, Ellie broke up with Ben. She said Ben has changed. The gifts, flowers and love was less.

The Trophy
Ben & Sam decided to go after a gorgeous young girl name Ellie whom they both met in a club 6 months ago. Ben & Sam tried their best tricks up their sleeves to win Ellie’s heart. 2 months later, Sam sealed the deal, he would proudly bring Ellie around and wave her around like a trophy. Ben moved on. 4 months later, Sam got bored and decided to go for the cute girl he just met at Starbucks coffee. Sam managed to date the cute girl from Starbucks Coffee but 6 months later, he went after the new neighbor.

Character names have been changed to protect the innocent.

I hope these few scenarios made a point and anyone could get hurt in this game. Be the gentleman and back off for the losers now will later win. Trust me, cause I won.

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10 naked girls, which would you go for? [SFW]

What do I look most for in women? It’s definitely not the physical looks. I admit I greatly admire beauty because of the artist in me but I’ll never use that fundamental in looking for a lover/partner. Because you and I know that you may be the most beautiful girl in the world at this point now but 40 years down the line, you’re gonna look just like any other old granny. Your skin is gonna wrinkle and your boobs will sag cause you can’t fight gravity.

The utmost priority for me in looking for a girl is communication. I regard communication highly because that’s the highest level to turn someone on. Think about it, just by talking you’ll get turned on. I’m sure some of you have met people who is so intellectually stimulating you just can’t wait to taste them.

You can line them 10 naked girls in front of me. All equally gorgeous and godly shaped. But who will I choose? Who will you choose? I would choose the one who can communicate with me and turn me on. Have you not met gorgeous people who totally turns you off the moment they try to speak with you?

You want someone who can connect with you, understands you, stimulate your brain and turns you on mentally for the rest of your life. Anything else is futile.

“Nothing is sexier than sheer brilliance a woman can portrait.”

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Real men switch on airplane mode for a proper date.

The Inevitable
With the growing adaption of smart phones in the generations to come. It’s inevitable that we will all meet people with horrible smart phone etiquette.

My Bad
I have to admit that my iPhone did get me into trouble when I was dating one of my ex-girlfriend. She’s always saying that I gave all my attention to my phone instead of her. Well, you can’t blame me cause I’ve just bought it. There is a break-in period. Excuses aside, it’s still my bad.

The Situation
I think it’s very important for the generation to come to understand smart phone etiquette. Many times, I’ve seen couples sitting in cafes hanging out with their smart phones instead of each other. Why bother coming out in the first place? If this is how you both interact with each other in public, most likely it’s pretty much the same when you’re both at home. Have you both exhausted all the topics or conversations under the sun?

Let’s take a look at some horrible smart phone etiquette.

  1. Leaving the phone on the table and get distracted with every blink or vibrate.
  2. Taking pictures. This includes of food, each other with food, each other eating food.
  3. Checking & tagging into multiple social networks.
  4. Blog, micro-blog about the situation.
  5. Replying countless text message.
  6. Laughing to self after receiving something funny and not appropriate to share.
  7. Pressing the home button now and then just to make sure you don’t miss any notifications

The only time it would deem appropriate to whip out your smart phone is when you’re expecting an urgent call or you have something you would like to share/show your date.

Let’s not give in to the horrible side of smart phones. Humans has come through a great deal of wisdom to have created such a wonderful device but don’t let humankind fall on the device we’ve created.

The Challenge
So here’s my challenge to you. Turn on airplane mode the next time you’re out on a date. Be a gentleman and make it a proper date.

But here’s a free tip for the ladies.
“You know that a guy is extremely interested in you when he doesn’t whip out his smart phone every other minute.”

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Guys are built to chase in a relationship.

Times have changed, we hear that women are often the one pursuing in a relationship these days. I’m fine with the notion but you have to realize that guys are built to chase in a relationship.

Why?

Guys plays at least one type of ball sport when they were young and these ball sports are mostly team games. At a young age we are conditioned to be competitive. We often work hard as a team to win but also occasionally you have one-man-show type dick heads.

So what about guys and sports and relationship?

We are trained to chase the ball.We will run for it, fight for it, grab it and score it. Isn’t this familiar? It totally reflects how men behave in relationships. In comparison, we choose a girl, we find ways to approach the girl, and if there’s some other guys in the picture, we fight for the girl, get her in the end and ‘score’ it.

We are not being an ass when we choose to refuse that one girl who loves us so much and has been waiting patiently for a long time. Guys are just simply built to chase. It’s a thrilling process and most probably the best period of a relationship.

It’s no wonder why girls are conditioned to play ‘hard-to-get’ on the other hand.

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Unfailing Love

Amongst the crowd, I see a familiar face,
the very one that puts my heart in place.
Her smile so enchanting how could I miss,
Proclaiming aloud she’s my eternal bliss.

Shy, I was to gaze upon her beauty,
smother, I dare not to let her wary.
My delicate heart pounds with racing beat,
How slowly time passes to await her greet.

Her presence is like a magnifying glass,
enlarging the feelings I try to pass.
Suppress I must, the words I dare not spill,
I sit back and play it cool and chill.

It’s only a matter of time till she departs,
and again my heart will be pieces and parts.
Still, this feeling inside I cannot hide,
that one day I want you to be my bride.

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That darn radio is making me cry!

Upon hearing the first beat of ‘Our Song’. Tears just couldn’t stop rolling down your cheeks. It’s devastating to a point that all you could do is just to run into your room and cry out loud into the pillow hoping your parents don’t hear you. Picture perfect memories of your other half runs effortlessly and continuously through your mind till it wears you down and fall asleep only to find yourself awaken to rinse and repeat the whole scenario again.

It’s amazing how songs amplify the emptiness and loneliness after a heart break.

You then start to wonder when will all these nonsense come to a halt. What seems to be minutes are now days. You look around you, everything just stops. That void is ripping your heart out into abyss. But fret not my deary, with a little wisdom and time. It will heal your heart whole. You’ll wake up to the sound of birds chirping that you once thought was lost forever. You’ll run like the wind that you once thought nothing could ever make you move again. You’ll look back and laugh at your adolescent years that made you wiser and stronger.

Then that darn radio plays your ‘Our Song’. You immediately felt this gush of warmness rising from your belly. It’s familiar but yet different. Your memories has not failed you that you recognize this pattern you once had. In a blink of an eye, you didn’t feel any tears rolling. Instead, the edge of your lips break into a smile. Even chuckles from your heart at your silly self and the moments you had with your ex. You then look around you… life is good. You’re happy with the moments you’ve collected in life.

“Collect moments, not things.”

Why not share the song that made you teared in the comments below? I’ll promise to share mine after the 10th comment providing you won’t laugh at it.

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